Nathan Cole’s Blog
I used to treat silence like strength.
If something felt off — in my head, in my body — I’d tell myself it would sort itself out. Most men do that dance. The longer I waited, the heavier it got.
The first time I realized something was really different, it wasn’t dramatic. Just a long night that went nowhere. My mind was racing, my body unresponsive, and I thought, What’s wrong with me?
Turns out, nothing “wrong.” Just too much tension, too little awareness. My body had learned to stay on alert, not to relax. Once I stopped treating sex like a test and more like a conversation with my own nerves, things shifted.
If you’ve been holding your breath waiting for “normal” to come back — maybe start by literally breathing again. That’s where I did.
